Are you a shopaholic? Does saving money seem like a foreign concept to you? If so you are looking at money wrong. If you believe saving or investing your money will cause you to miss out on doing something you enjoy then you have not developed a healthy attitude towards money.
We all value different things. For one person the idea of giving up shopping may be earth shattering. For some people, shopping is their therapy hence the term “retail therapy” but you shouldn’t have to choose between being able to shop or save. If shopping is your vice or something that you enjoy , why not plan for it? Instead of spending frivolously draw up a plan that allows you to put money away and still shop. For example, have a savings account where you put a certain amount of your income into but also a shopping account where you do the same. When you feel the need to shop you can take from your “shopping account”. I would recommend planning these shopping trips. An example would be to allow yourself to shop every 4 months. That will give you enough time to fill up the account to where you will have a sufficient amount of funds to splurge on the things you like. Since you now designated an account for shopping you wont have to worry about spending money you need because you will still have your savings account which can be used for emergencies.
Saving money does not equal losing your ability to do the things you enjoy. If you have a plan for your money it will allow you freedom to live a life you desire. Money is a tool for us to get things done. Once you decide what’s important to you, you can then decide how to best utilize your money to make those things happen.